December 21 marks the Winter Solstice in my part of the world. It’s known as the shortest day of the year. The shortest day. Those words could send some people into an anxious, overwhelmed state. This often happens when we worry about not having enough time. Worrying about time can lead you into a rushed frenzy or a robot-on-skates approach to your day. Thoughts like “time is running out” or “just get it done” are quickly moving through your head. There’s a feeling of being u
I’ve uttered these words on many occasions. Sometimes it’s because I’m in the “my eyes are bigger than my stomach” mode. This happens when I’ve planned some projects and mapped out the steps to complete them and along comes a bright shiny idea or offer. And I say, “Yes”. Many of you know that I have what some people call a slash career. You could describe me as a professor/entrepreneur/author/yoga teacher/speaker. But I’d have to add daughter/little sister/big sister/niece/Q
Growing up, my Mama taught me three things to save me from despair: It’s a blessing in disguise. All things work together for your good. As a man thinks, so is he. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. She’s the reason that I chose to study cognitive behavioral approaches to treatment when training to be a clinical psychologist. I learned early in life that changing your thoughts and perceptions would shift your emotions and behavior. I have to admit that this process
We’ve all heard of a side hustle. I’m sure many of us have had at least one. It’s great part-time work that puts a few more dollars in your pocket. It supplements your main hustle. It fills in the gaps where resources are missing. It’s very often something that we really love doing. It may give us a chance to spread our wings into new territory. I spent many years teaching evening hot yoga classes because of my love relationship with yoga. The practice was so fulfilling that
Spring has arrived and I’m reminded that Mother Nature is a master of flow. She keeps her cycle going from season to season. Over hills, through wind, across snow, rain or shine, she keeps it moving to her next destination.
In my part of the world, we often mark Spring by warmer temperature, amount of sunshine and flowers growing. But these physical things are the result of something sure and steady that we don’t see - energy. Energy is the key to change. Traditionally, Spr
Many of us have heard the phrase, “If you want something done, ask a busy person”. Busy people are seen as reliable problem-solvers with supreme planning skills. They’re often thought of as the person who can beat Murphy’s Law because they have a solution before the problem shows up. It’s a great set of skills. Enviable even. But what happens when busy becomes a way of life and women take on more than is possible to manage in a reasonable time frame? Here’s how it might look.
It’s Women’s History Month and March 8 is International Women’s Day. People around the world are standing in solidarity for women’s equality. March 8 is also my Mama’s birthday so I celebrated this day long before I knew that it had international status. The fact that it’s my Mama’s birthday makes it pretty easy for me to acknowledge how important women are to our very existence. A verse from a Yoruba Sacred text says, Give respect to women then.
Indeed, it is woman who bro
Over the last few weeks we’ve had two New Year celebrations. There was the January 1 celebration and on January 28 the Lunar New Year began. Throughout the year, there will be other cultural and spiritual markers of new beginnings. And of course, each of us gets our personal new year that begins on our birthday. These celebrations got my mind and spirit stirring with thoughts and feelings about opportunity. Some say opportunity knocks once. If you don’t answer, you’ll miss yo
I want to take this moment to say, “Thank you for your support”. I’m very grateful for opportunities to spark your energy to bring your best to what matters most to you. This work fulfills my why. It’s one of my missions to bring good into our world. I’m on purpose when I support your purpose. 2016 said goodbye and wished us a future full of good. 2017 is here to help us make it happen. I hope that you’ve chosen your inspiration word(s) for 2017. Think about how you want to
We are just a few days away from another New Year’s Day. I love the feeling of opportunity that fills this time of year. It’s energizing. Two years ago I decided that I would look for the good in every challenge. This practice has been more than a blessing. There’s no way to measure the benefits to my peace of mind and my increased ease in dealing with difficulties. Earlier this year, I extended this practice to my thoughts about my future. I chose to believe that everything
Wow! It’s mid-November…Amazing… It seems I was just saying, “Happy New Year. Welcome to 2016”. And here we are with 2017 beginning her final descent. Get your seatbacks and tray tables in position. Ready? Like the song says, “Ready or not, here I come”. I’ve decided to end this year on an inspirational note. I’m spending time with some of my favorite quotes. I’m using them to charge up for the next level. When a quote deeply touches you, your body, mind and spirit are energiz
We all know that moment when we feel drained but we keep pushing because we have more stuff to do. If we take a close look, there probably isn’t any “white space” in our calendar. We have one event after another. We finish one thing only to start another and another and another. We’re moving through this, that and the other task. We move so much that we don’t know how to stop. At bedtime, we literally pass out. Perhaps we don’t even make it to the bed. We pass out before we c
October got off to a powerful start. It opened with a theme that is near and dear to my heart and soul: Women make magic everyday. I’ve been in several women’s circles this month. Entrepreneurs. Bloggers. Healers. Meditators. Dreamers. Innovators. Doers. Storytellers. Hard-working visionaries. Women sharing their dreams, supporting each other, asking for feedback, growing, healing and creating change. I’ll close out this month celebrating one of the women that I love most, my
Well…we’ve come to the final quarter of 2016. How did this happen? It seems we were just beginning the first quarter. Now the end is on the horizon. And along with the approach of the year’s end come the questions about how it went. How did you do? Did you accomplish your goals? What went right? What went wrong? Are you better off than you were last year this time? Some of us may be hearing our dreams and goals doing a Janet Jackson karaoke singing, “What have you done for me
October is National Women’s Small Business Month. Over the last couple of years, I’ve read several reports about the growing number of women business owners. I’ve also read that working women reinvest in their families and communities. The phrase, “Educate a woman. Education a nation,” has never been truer. The range of talents and skills and interests that women use to grow businesses is astounding. Our businesses offer everything from crocheted swimsuits to specialized lacr
On September 24, 2016, Ms. Ruth Bonner, 99 year-old daughter of a formerly enslaved man, rang the bell marking the official opening of the National Museum of African American History and Culture. Some family members, President Obama and First Lady Obama assisted her. Four generations of her family were present standing on the strong shoulders of her father, a man who escaped to freedom, farmed the land and later became a physician. It was a glorious moment in American history
Work hard. Struggle. Push through. Use force. Nothing comes easy. You can take it. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. These are ideas that many of hear from the time we’re children throughout adulthood. And if you’re Black like me you’ve heard: Make a way out of no way. God don’t put no more on you than you can bear. God don’t put no more on your plate than you can chew. I grew up in a Christian family in a town with a long Civil Rights legacy. Christ suffered on
Over the weekend, I was in training. I learned more about how to build and preserve my body, mind & spirit. I spent 2 full days recharging and squirreling away energy. It was a beautiful and an intense experience. It’s much like the pressure that creates diamonds or the 90 minutes of oven heat that makes a bowl full of batter rise into a golden brown, delicious pound cake. Yeah. Something markedly beautiful emerges out of the pressure and the heat. Deep soul searching convers
One of my favorite quotes from the summer is from my Taoist teacher, Dr. Nan Lu. “Doing nothing is doing something”. Dr. Nan Lu It was a strategy he offered for creating more peacefulness and harmony in our daily lives. Summer offers most of us time to focus on recharging and renewing our energy. But this is the last day of August. Summer is coming to a close. The fall rush is at the starting gate. It’s preparing to bear down on us. Some school districts are already back in s
This summer I took some time to read, plan, catch up, redirect and renew. I have some new favorite books, articles and quotes. I spruced up my vision board and my affirmations. I have my eyes on the prize. There are a few things that I want to show up in my future. Each day, I take a few steps to get closer to them. Just a few days ago, I read my Taoist teacher’s blog post response this inquiry: how would it work to imagine that we already have what we want in our future? He